BODY COACHING through Self-Regulation
Complete stillness lies at the storm’s core.
While the storm rages all around, the eye of the storm remains still—utterly quiet, due to the laws of physics.
If we can learn to create that stillness within ourselves—despite the chaos outside—we’ve mastered something essential.
Life may swirl around us, but we remain centered, calm, and unarmored.
Our heart rate stays steady, and we don’t tense up or shut down.
Vocal Leadership is Self-Leadership
Again and again: learning to guide your own voice is both a craft, a discipline, and eventually, a creative art.
To consciously interrupt or redirect unconscious patterns—that is the high art of self-regulation.
To regulate your pulse, to “keep stress off your body,” to let your breath flow freely, to deactivate the fight, flight, or freeze response—that is a life skill of the highest order.
Allowing yourself to stay soft, open, and calm under pressure often contradicts how we were raised, what we were taught, or what we expect from ourselves.
Holding that inner tension while remaining physically and mentally flexible is a daily challenge.
But here’s the truth:
It’s up to us.
Only we can decide how we want to be—and take responsibility for becoming that version of ourselves.
BODY COACHING TIPS – super. simple. effective.
It really can be this simple:
Exhaling regulates your nervous system.
When you exhale, you activate the vagus nerve—the main nerve of your parasympathetic nervous system.
It’s responsible for relaxation, softness, and emotional openness.
You can even trick your ancient brain: the act of exhaling sends a clear message to your body that you’re safe.
In response, your system stops producing stress hormones.
There’s no longer a need to defend, protect, or escape.
We’re still running on primal “hardware” that often disrupts our modern lives.
But when we become aware of it, we can start to redirect our automatic responses.
When you exhale in moments of stress, you begin to calm yourself—instantly.
To self-regulate means…
Start by speaking to yourself kindly.
Soothe your own inner state.
Acknowledge your fears—internally, clearly, out loud if needed.
There’s always an inner dialogue running—quiet or loud.
When you learn to notice what moves you—or paralyzes you—you can engage with it both mentally and emotionally.
Give yourself permission.
Recognize ancient fears that no longer serve you.
Let go.
And most importantly: JUST KEEP EXHALING. AGAIN AND AGAIN.
Honoring the primitive within our complex lives—that in itself is a form of mastery.
Let’s keep it simple. That feels good.
Yours sincerely,